Getting My &*#@ Together Series: HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY


This week’s blog was going to focus on the importance of establishing a routine, but I forgot tomorrow IS VALENTINE’S DAY!

So instead of sending myself flowers to my job with a heartfelt “I love you, Erin. From Erin” written on the little card, I’ve decided I’m going to switch gears.

On this man made holiday smack in the ass crack of February, we’re supposed to celebrate the beauty of L-O-V-E.

And while there are many who will be relishing in the feeling, we all also know LOVE can suck donkey balls through a coffee stirrer. Come to think of it (and I’m writing this over a glass of wine so forgive me if I’m mistaken), it’s the only thing in the world that can simultaneously fill you up and drain you; feel like heaven and hell; be so warm but so cold; simply occupy such polar opposites that it’s maddening.

I think that’s what’s behind our attraction to love.

As much as it can hurt, we all know how good it can feel. Regardless of what we tell ourselves or post on our social media platforms, we all want to be loved.

What we fall into sometimes on this day, however, is the trappings of our idea of romantic love – and lack thereof.

Whether it’s societal, familial, or personal pressure, the weight of romantic love and its perceived importance on Valentine’s Day can push feelings of inadequacy to the forefront when we aren’t greeted with flowers and candy at some point during the day.

IF this is something you struggle with, this year …

…  I want you to remember two things:

  1. In less than 48 hours, all of that delectable chocolate is going to be 50% off.
  2. A partner doesn’t validate your existence or somehow translate into completeness. For those who have them and are in healthy relationships, they’ll tell you it’s more like a bonus; like the gumbo was already bomb, but their partner just added the right amount of cayenne. Don’t let anyone or anything make you think you need another person to have fire sauce, folks.

Until next time, be kind to yourself.

Love and light,



Mouth watering for more of my BS ramblings, check out last week’s blog at:

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