I’ve had a hell of a two weeks, y’all!
*fake faints to add a little drama to that statement.
Now, I won’t bore you with the details of the shenanigans I had to endure, because the important part of this story is that I’ve been drowning in a sea of insurance companies, car salesmen, and banks.
*fake faints again, just so you can know how real it is
When I say it sucked …
I mean it sucked harder than a freshly cleaned vacuum cleaner …
It sucked harder than an African woman’s teeth when she’s ripping out your edges with microbraids …
It sucked harder than …
OK, I think I can stop now because y’all get the point and I was slowing going down the road to a clever, dirty joke.
There were moments during this process when I wanted to flip over tables and cry out of frustration, but when the dust settled and I started to think back on the sequence of events, I have to admit that I’m proud of myself.
And not just because I didn’t flip any tables or cry (although I came close a few times), but because it was one of the first times in my life when I didn’t allow my pure hatred of confrontational situations make me give up.
You see, I hate confrontation; I think many of us do.
But that’s the thing.
What I learned is that it isn’t the hate of confrontation that gets our goat, it’s that we don’t know how to navigate through it.
Now, I ain’t no punk bitch (LOL), but I’ve just found over the last 37 years that it’s easier to avoid confrontation whenever I can.
But BABYEEEEEEE …
When I tell you that the Universe pulled my card this month …
Sis called me at 3 am, like “Hi, is this Erin? This is Sheryl and I just want to talk to you woman to woman.”
I was trapped, back against the wall, holding back thug tears, but …
I said no when I meant no (something that’s hard for many people, especially women to do);
I didn’t allow anyone to pressure me into situations I wasn’t comfortable with;
I knew what I had, knew what I needed, knew when I needed it by;
And I was persistent, even when things got spicy;
Even when I was told “no”;
Even when I was told some BS that I knew was wrong or unfair.
And yes, there were times when I felt defeated, when I almost said F it and gave up.
But then I pulled out my “let me speak to your manager, middle aged woman hat” and got back in the fight.
And it worked, y’all.
It wasn’t easy and I was so emotionally exhausted from the entire process by the time Friday came that I had to take a nap like a toddler …
But it worked.
And when I look back on it, I think that even if it didn’t work out the way I wanted, I would have still been proud of myself.
Because I fought for what I needed and I kicked that fear of confrontation right in the b hole *in my Tiffany Haddish voice.
So if you’re anything like me …
And you tend to avoid confrontation like you would an unvaccinated three-year-old …
I want you to think about my adventures the next time you find yourself in a bind …
And try it …
I promise, you’ll end up beating your chest in triumph, even if you do lose.
Until next time, folks!
Love and Light,
What did you say?
You miss me when I’m gone?
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