Dear Summer: Put your Clothes on and Get Out … We Had Our Run but it’s Over

The first day of fall was this past Saturday, September 22. And while I’m usually super ready for the leaves to start falling, warm drinks, and hoodies, this year it feels ... Bittersweet. Because I spent my summer painting outside beneath the stars … and I’m going to miss it. As I put the last few … Continue reading Dear Summer: Put your Clothes on and Get Out … We Had Our Run but it’s Over

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Giving the Medicine with the Candy: Unwinding Azealia Banks and this “Wild ‘n Out” Fiasco

Le sigh … Azealia … Banks … Double Le sigh! Why the respiratory distress about this young lady? Because I have a love/”hate” thing going with Ms. Banks. I love that she marches to the beat of her own symphony. But I cannot stand some of the things that come out of her mouth … … Continue reading Giving the Medicine with the Candy: Unwinding Azealia Banks and this “Wild ‘n Out” Fiasco

Bad Decisions, Expectations, and Privilege: 4 Things I Learned from Season 6 of OITNB

THIS BLOG CONTAINS SPOILERS, SO IF YOU HAVEN’T WATCHED SEASON 6 OF "ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK" (OITNB), PLEASE DON’T READ THIS. I REALLY DON’T WANT TO READ THE ANGRY EMAILS. SO SAVE YOUR PITCHFORKS AND RHYTHMIC CHANTING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I tell everyone that I have the attention span of a ferret on meth … Continue reading Bad Decisions, Expectations, and Privilege: 4 Things I Learned from Season 6 of OITNB

“Fuck Men!” … but … “I Love Him!”

Writer’s Note: Before we go into this discussion, let me just say this first: MEN ARE NOT EVIL! (trust me, I gave birth to one) … but the way we socialize them in this world can make them pretty shitty – at the least  on the mild end – and dangerous on the severe. So … Continue reading “Fuck Men!” … but … “I Love Him!”

Peace Begins Where Expectations End

We spend a lot of time fighting against things that will never change. Why? Simply because we have hard time managing our expectations. More specifically, it's the expectations we have of other people WHEN IT’S BEEN REPEATEDLY DEMONSTRATED THAT THEY DON’T WANT TO OR ARE INCAPABLE OF MEETING THEM. I can’t count how many times … Continue reading Peace Begins Where Expectations End

On Some Girl GANG, GANG Shyt!

We all know that we’re born alone and die alone, so while it’s not an outright necessity, it does help to have a gang of girlfriends behind you to help cheer you on. I mean how could you not get a much needed ego boost from a well-placed “yass, sis”; Or a good old “Come … Continue reading On Some Girl GANG, GANG Shyt!

F*&$ IT! I’m an “Angry Black Woman”

You see, black women are arguably the most educated group in the US … but are definitely the most undervalued.

Our Babies are Watching … But What are We Showing Them?

Our babies are watching And some of our babies are lost. And this lost ass world is eating our lost ass babies, as our other babies watch. Let me take a few steps back, so you can follow my thought process on how I got here. I remember, many years ago, telling my mom I … Continue reading Our Babies are Watching … But What are We Showing Them?

“CRAZY” in LOVE!!!!

I always knew I was going to write this blog. It was actually at the top of my list. But I didn’t. Because I was scared … Because it’s tough … Because it’s about something people don’t really talk about, yet a “dirty” little secret many of us have. But then last week happened and … Continue reading “CRAZY” in LOVE!!!!