We spend a lot of time fighting against things that will never change. Why? Simply because we have hard time managing our expectations. More specifically, it's the expectations we have of other people WHEN IT’S BEEN REPEATEDLY DEMONSTRATED THAT THEY DON’T WANT TO OR ARE INCAPABLE OF MEETING THEM. I can’t count how many times … Continue reading Peace Begins Where Expectations End
Our Babies are Watching … But What are We Showing Them?
Our babies are watching And some of our babies are lost. And this lost ass world is eating our lost ass babies, as our other babies watch. Let me take a few steps back, so you can follow my thought process on how I got here. I remember, many years ago, telling my mom I … Continue reading Our Babies are Watching … But What are We Showing Them?
Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Don’t Choke on that Lie!
I’m a writer, so I tell stories. But at the beginning of this journey of getting my shit together, I made a promise to myself that I was going to tell the TRUTH … at all times … no matter what. I felt so strongly about it that I even got the word tatted on … Continue reading Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Don’t Choke on that Lie!
Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Self-Care 101
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you’re doing it because you want to. This is YOUR TIME and because we don’t get a lot of it, it’s important that you enjoy yourself and give yourself time to recharge.
Getting My &*#@ Together Series: I Can’t Takes This Pain Anymore!
We learn from pain. Unfortunately. Think about your childhood friends; your first boyfriend. We have the best memories of those people because we had those relationships before we experienced too much pain. So we loved harder and connected more purely. But then the pain of experience set in. You’re a kid. You touch the stove; … Continue reading Getting My &*#@ Together Series: I Can’t Takes This Pain Anymore!
Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Dirty Water
As usual, there I was minding my entire black ass business when this week’s blog topic came to me while listening to a podcast. This particular podcast is called Ear Hustle, a weekly show based in San Quentin that “brings you the stories of life inside prison, shared and produced by those living it.” While this … Continue reading Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Dirty Water
Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Sometimes You Just Shine Too Bright – Don’t Dim Your Light
Let me make one thing clear. I aint &*#@! And while that may sound self-deprecating, it kind of isn’t in this context. All I’m saying is that I’m still getting it together … and will always be … because there will always be room for improvement (I mean, that’s what this blog is all about). … Continue reading Getting My &*#@ Together Series: Sometimes You Just Shine Too Bright – Don’t Dim Your Light
My Hair Does NOT Define Me!
For my daughter … and all of the other little black women in training. After washing and blow drying my daughter’s hair yesterday evening, I asked her how she wanted to wear it. She told me she no longer wanted to wear her hair out in an “afro” because the other kids in school were … Continue reading My Hair Does NOT Define Me!