I’m a Fat Chick

I’m fat.  Maybe not fat af.  But I definitely have to buy new jeans every few months because my thighs rubbing together thins the fabric.  And I definitely make sure my bra sits far enough on my back to keep my back fat contained ...  And I definitely have to push my boobs down to … Continue reading I’m a Fat Chick

Thankful AF! Redemption Song

I’ve been a horrible friend. I’ve betrayed people who trusted me. I’ve broken hearts unapologetically. I’ve hurt people who showed me nothing but kindness. Yes. Me. I did those things.

Dear Summer: Put your Clothes on and Get Out … We Had Our Run but it’s Over

The first day of fall was this past Saturday, September 22. And while I’m usually super ready for the leaves to start falling, warm drinks, and hoodies, this year it feels ... Bittersweet. Because I spent my summer painting outside beneath the stars … and I’m going to miss it. As I put the last few … Continue reading Dear Summer: Put your Clothes on and Get Out … We Had Our Run but it’s Over

Watch Your Mouth Before I Block You!

“She’s a whore!” he said. And if the eyebrows (that I’d carefully drawn of my face that morning) traveled any further up my face they would have flown off into the atmosphere.

Giving the Medicine with the Candy: Unwinding Azealia Banks and this “Wild ‘n Out” Fiasco

Le sigh … Azealia … Banks … Double Le sigh! Why the respiratory distress about this young lady? Because I have a love/”hate” thing going with Ms. Banks. I love that she marches to the beat of her own symphony. But I cannot stand some of the things that come out of her mouth … … Continue reading Giving the Medicine with the Candy: Unwinding Azealia Banks and this “Wild ‘n Out” Fiasco

Giving the Medicine with the Candy: The Nicki Vs. Safaree Edition – A.K.A – “But, you chose her, bro!”

Throughout the last two weeks, celebrity Twitter fingers have been twittering, Shade Rooms have been shade rooming, and Instastories have been storying … and while I just made some of those verbs up, one thing that doesn’t live in the land of make believe is the domestic violence accusations flying around between Nicki Minaj and … Continue reading Giving the Medicine with the Candy: The Nicki Vs. Safaree Edition – A.K.A – “But, you chose her, bro!”

Bad Decisions, Expectations, and Privilege: 4 Things I Learned from Season 6 of OITNB

THIS BLOG CONTAINS SPOILERS, SO IF YOU HAVEN’T WATCHED SEASON 6 OF "ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK" (OITNB), PLEASE DON’T READ THIS. I REALLY DON’T WANT TO READ THE ANGRY EMAILS. SO SAVE YOUR PITCHFORKS AND RHYTHMIC CHANTING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I tell everyone that I have the attention span of a ferret on meth … Continue reading Bad Decisions, Expectations, and Privilege: 4 Things I Learned from Season 6 of OITNB

“Fuck Men!” … but … “I Love Him!”

Writer’s Note: Before we go into this discussion, let me just say this first: MEN ARE NOT EVIL! (trust me, I gave birth to one) … but the way we socialize them in this world can make them pretty shitty – at the least  on the mild end – and dangerous on the severe. So … Continue reading “Fuck Men!” … but … “I Love Him!”

Peace Begins Where Expectations End

We spend a lot of time fighting against things that will never change. Why? Simply because we have hard time managing our expectations. More specifically, it's the expectations we have of other people WHEN IT’S BEEN REPEATEDLY DEMONSTRATED THAT THEY DON’T WANT TO OR ARE INCAPABLE OF MEETING THEM. I can’t count how many times … Continue reading Peace Begins Where Expectations End

On Some Girl GANG, GANG Shyt!

We all know that we’re born alone and die alone, so while it’s not an outright necessity, it does help to have a gang of girlfriends behind you to help cheer you on. I mean how could you not get a much needed ego boost from a well-placed “yass, sis”; Or a good old “Come … Continue reading On Some Girl GANG, GANG Shyt!